Comments on: Unlucky in Love? No, it’s Probably your Fault. http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2008/05/10/unlucky-in-love-no-its-probably-your-fault/ Dissecting What You Choose to Ignore Thu, 24 Jul 2008 06:18:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Emilia Liz http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2008/05/10/unlucky-in-love-no-its-probably-your-fault/#comment-39357 Emilia Liz Sat, 17 May 2008 04:50:51 +0000 http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/?p=445#comment-39357 It's funny; this one colleague of mine blamed his inability to find a girlfriend on the fact that girls supposedly liked guys that were "mean." I suspect in his case though that part of the reason he hadn't found a girlfriend was because he smoked. I once dated a man who smoked - and after we broke up (not due to his smoking, by the way) I decided I would never date a guy who smoked because a.) he smelled terrible from up close; b.) one of my cats had asthma and I didn't want him smoking in the house because it could trigger an asthma attack in her; and c.) he generally smoked outside, but if we had moved in together I would eventually have had no choice but to let him smoke inside. So sometimes a man who says he isn't "mean" enough to find girlfriend might have some other quality that is repelling girls. It’s funny; this one colleague of mine blamed his inability to find a girlfriend on the fact that girls supposedly liked guys that were “mean.” I suspect in his case though that part of the reason he hadn’t found a girlfriend was because he smoked. I once dated a man who smoked - and after we broke up (not due to his smoking, by the way) I decided I would never date a guy who smoked because a.) he smelled terrible from up close; b.) one of my cats had asthma and I didn’t want him smoking in the house because it could trigger an asthma attack in her; and c.) he generally smoked outside, but if we had moved in together I would eventually have had no choice but to let him smoke inside. So sometimes a man who says he isn’t “mean” enough to find girlfriend might have some other quality that is repelling girls. ]]> By: Cynapse http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2008/05/10/unlucky-in-love-no-its-probably-your-fault/#comment-39355 Cynapse Sat, 17 May 2008 01:06:53 +0000 http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/?p=445#comment-39355 Hi Emilia: Bad girls and bad boys are absolutely attractive to the opposite sex because of their mystique, aura of adventure and of course the chance for you to "change" them. Like you said, it's typically nonsense but people like fantasies. Like many, I learned this the hard way and dated a few model-esque gals for no longer than 3 months each - the mystique dies once you have to deal with them beyond the image. Hi Emilia:

Bad girls and bad boys are absolutely attractive to the opposite sex because of their mystique, aura of adventure and of course the chance for you to “change” them. Like you said, it’s typically nonsense but people like fantasies. Like many, I learned this the hard way and dated a few model-esque gals for no longer than 3 months each - the mystique dies once you have to deal with them beyond the image.

]]> By: Emilia Liz http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2008/05/10/unlucky-in-love-no-its-probably-your-fault/#comment-39132 Emilia Liz Sat, 10 May 2008 20:24:23 +0000 http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/?p=445#comment-39132 Some girls like "bad" boys (and maybe the opposite is true as well) because they seem more exciting. And sometimes they like the idea that they can "change" these bad boys, ex. stop his drinking. But it almost never happens, so then they're back to square one. Some girls like “bad” boys (and maybe the opposite is true as well) because they seem more exciting. And sometimes they like the idea that they can “change” these bad boys, ex. stop his drinking. But it almost never happens, so then they’re back to square one. ]]>