Comments on: Cohabitation: The Final Frontier? http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2007/02/17/cohabitation-the-final-frontier/ Dissecting What You Choose to Ignore Fri, 25 Jul 2008 14:06:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Emilia Liz http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2007/02/17/cohabitation-the-final-frontier/#comment-33138 Emilia Liz Wed, 23 Jan 2008 15:11:22 +0000 http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2007/02/17/cohabitation-the-final-frontier/#comment-33138 Dear lh, Thank you for your comment. Sorry to have gotten back to you so late; I didn't think I would get any more comments on my articles! I understand what you are saying in your post about cohabitation per se leading to a higher divorce rate among cohabitors who do marry. However, I believe scientific studies show it's not so much the cohabitation per se that leads to these higher divorce rates but the fact that cohabitors are less traditional in general than those who went into marriage directly and thus more open to divorce. Still, I agree that maybe the two partners in a cohabiting relationship should clear what their intentions are before moving in together. Dear lh,

Thank you for your comment. Sorry to have gotten back to you so late; I didn’t think I would get any more comments on my articles!

I understand what you are saying in your post about cohabitation per se leading to a higher divorce rate among cohabitors who do marry. However, I believe scientific studies show it’s not so much the cohabitation per se that leads to these higher divorce rates but the fact that cohabitors are less traditional in general than those who went into marriage directly and thus more open to divorce. Still, I agree that maybe the two partners in a cohabiting relationship should clear what their intentions are before moving in together.

]]> By: lh http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2007/02/17/cohabitation-the-final-frontier/#comment-31681 lh Mon, 14 Jan 2008 21:53:17 +0000 http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2007/02/17/cohabitation-the-final-frontier/#comment-31681 As mentioned, stats show that marriages that follow cohabitation break up more often that marriages that were not preceded by cohabitation. Why?? Some expectations about cohabitation are not reality based. Just because you're living in, doesn't mean that your partner will be open with you. Cohabiting may provide a false sense of security during what should be a phase of "courtship" when both parties' should be more skeptical. Moving out is a bigger adjustment than slowing down a dating relationship, so cohabiting people may be less likely to draw away and may drift into a marriage that is no longer a conscious choice. If dating you are likely to find a new partner more easier than if you are cohabiting. Sometimes cohabiting partners have different beliefs about cohabitation, for example one partner thinks it is a trial marriage and the other thinks it is a convenient relationship until they are ready for marriage. Values and habits might be indications of what a longer marriage will be like, better than depending on behavior during a period of cohabitation. A partner who overwhelms by debate points (it's practical) or subtle name calling (everyone does it) in an attempt to persuade you to cohabit, does not understand jointly beneficial decision making that is part of many long term relationships. Some people are not emotionally suited to the long periods of relationship instability that are part of cohabitation. Where is the research that compares the pre-marriage relationships of those whose marriages last and those whose marriages don't? Or are research results just too politically incorrect to talk about? Each person should have the information to make an informed choice. As mentioned, stats show that marriages that follow cohabitation break up more often that marriages that were not preceded by cohabitation. Why?? Some expectations about cohabitation are not reality based. Just because you’re living in, doesn’t mean that your partner will be open with you. Cohabiting may provide a false sense of security during what should be a phase of “courtship” when both parties’ should be more skeptical. Moving out is a bigger adjustment than slowing down a dating relationship, so cohabiting people may be less likely to draw away and may drift into a marriage that is no longer a conscious choice. If dating you are likely to find a new partner more easier than if you are cohabiting. Sometimes cohabiting partners have different beliefs about cohabitation, for example one partner thinks it is a trial marriage and the other thinks it is a convenient relationship until they are ready for marriage. Values and habits might be indications of what a longer marriage will be like, better than depending on behavior during a period of cohabitation. A partner who overwhelms by debate points (it’s practical) or subtle name calling (everyone does it) in an attempt to persuade you to cohabit, does not understand jointly beneficial decision making that is part of many long term relationships. Some people are not emotionally suited to the long periods of relationship instability that are part of cohabitation. Where is the research that compares the pre-marriage relationships of those whose marriages last and those whose marriages don’t? Or are research results just too politically incorrect to talk about? Each person should have the information to make an informed choice. ]]> By: Emilia Liz http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2007/02/17/cohabitation-the-final-frontier/#comment-27178 Emilia Liz Thu, 22 Nov 2007 17:36:32 +0000 http://www.cynicsunlimited.com/2007/02/17/cohabitation-the-final-frontier/#comment-27178 Dear Asnath, Thank you. If you could send me your research paper at emilia_e_murphy@yahoo.ca, I would be pleased to read it. Emilia Dear Asnath,

Thank you. If you could send me your research paper at emilia_e_murphy@yahoo.ca, I would be pleased to read it.

Emilia

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